Seeing Violence Against a Woman
Have members of a group answer the following questions alone. After everyone has completed, have the group members discuss the questions in small groups of two or three. Then bring the group back together to discuss what came up.
What happened?________________________________________________________
How did you feel when you saw this?________________________________________
How do you feel about it today?____________________________________________
How do you think male violence affects women, including women in your family?_______
How does it affect a man when he acts abusively towards a woman? _______________
How has it affected you when you have done so?_______________________________
What does violence against women cost in a relationship?________________________
What has it cost in your relationships?________________________________________
Close this exercise with a group discussion around the following questions:
- How do you think male violence affects women, including women in your family?
- How does it affect you – as a friend, partner, brother, husband – when you’re controlling or abusive towards a woman?
- What does it cost in your relationship?
- What do women need from men to help them resist the cycle of violence?
- What is your next step – one thing you could do right now to stand up for women?
From Young Men’s Work by Alan Creighton and Paul Kivel
©1995 by the Oakland Men’s Project. All rights reserved. Reproduction for personal, group or class use is permissible.
For information about books and other training and curricular materials or for feedback or questions about this exercise contact Paul Kivel at 510-654-3015 or at pkivel@mindspring.com. Other resources are available at www.paulkivel.com.
Resource Information
- Resource Type:
- Exercise
- Toolkit Sections:
- Get to Work
- Toolkit Sub-Sections:
- Get to Work - Work with Young Men
